Christmas arguments

I’d like to approach dilemma’s in a rational way, that should’t suprise anyone. Seriously considering every option and weighing the pros and cons seams like te best way to make serious decisions. And yes, i’m guilty of applying this method to relatively small problems whereby allmost all decisions require a lot of research and preperation. I well aware that the decision making process doesn’t work this way for everyone. But sometimes i feel like the world would be simpler and nicer if more people approached decisions in a rational way. 

The Christmas holidays are typically spent with family, thats also the case for me. Fortunately my family always keeps these events low key and there aren’t a lot of them. Still, this is a tressfull week which i dont perticularly like. So yesterday i had an argument with my parents about religion, they are both devoted Christians. I don’t beleave in God, purely because i don’t see the evidence for beleaving in God. 

My parents feel that it is within their right to ask me to participate in Christian traditions and conventions. I disagree wholehartedly, i’m adult and i have made my choice after extensive research. Provide me with the evidence that your God exists and i’ll join in prayer. Until that happens I can’t and I won’t. 

Praying to the Christian God and going to Church feels like betraying myself. Accepting or condoning values that are not mine, values that are in conflict with my values. I can’t support a religion that discriminates against some people because of their race or gender. A religion that is based on a book riddled with contradictions and lies.

The fact that we can’t talk about this topic calmly doesn’t help. My parents can’t understand how i could not beleave. I’m baffled how they can beleave without having any reason or evidence proving that the God they devote their lives to exists. 

It’s fine if someone wants to beleave in a God without concrete evidence. If that makes you happy, i’m happy. 

Don’t expect me to follow, don’t ask me to follow.

What I’m trying to say is be honest with yourself, always. You can’t keep pretending to be someone you’re not, not if you’re trying to be happy. It’s not worth it, no matter who is asking.

Hello world, its me!

HI! For a long time I have planned to start a blog to share my experience what it is like having aspergers. Also writing honestly might be helpful for myself. When trying to write down frustrating or complexe situations I’m forcing myself to analyse those situations which has given me some helpful insights before.

Who am I? I’m a Dutch guy in his early twenties and diagnosed with aspergers. I have only been diagnosed since my 20th. This has explained al lot of stuff for me. I realised that a lot of discomforts in my life could by explained by aspergers. More importantly, after further conversations with my psychiatrist I realised I could make my life significantly easier with some simple changes.

So I did. Knowing I had aspergers did explain a lot of my behaviour. With this knowledge if could prepare myself better to deal with these situations. There was a way I could systematically improve my life. Thats what I have been trying to do the last few years. I’m not nearly there yet but I have made a lot of progress.

On this blog I will share my experience as a person with aspergers. I will share my frustrations, personal success stories and the occasional rant. I hope you will join me for this ride.

PS: i’m not a native English speaker please keep that in mind when finding grammar mistakes for the umpteenth time.